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Dolly Doctor: How to nail your first kiss for an epic smooch sesh

Pucker up.
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We know it can be daunting, but hey if you’ve been dreaming about kissing bae for a while now but don’t really know how to perfect it then you’ll be needing these tips…

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1. Floss. Make sure your lips and mouth are pleasant and inviting. You don’t want to smell like your lunch, so maybe keep some mints handy.

2. Less is More. When you lean in for that first kiss, it doesn’t have to be all about the tongue. Better to start with a soft, gentle, brief kiss. And it if feels right, then make the second one a little longer.

Marianne and Connell share a passionate pucker in Normal People. (Credit: Normal People)

3. A Little Tongue. As your confidence builds, you can get more passionate and even introduce tongue to make it a full-on pAaAaSsShHh!!!

4. Take Your Time. A first kiss is super exciting, but you should go at your own pace. Don’t feel pressure to do it if you’re not ready. Trust us, you’ll know if you feel ready or not.

5. Don’t be sloppy. Sometimes in those early first kissing experiences, we might be a little messy with our saliva. Kissing stimulates more spit, so learn to control the moisture otherwise it’ll be a mess. But don’t fret this should come naturally.

6. Be kind. First kisses are can be both unbelievably exciting, but also nerve-wracking and embarrassing. If the person you’re kissing fumbles in an awkward way, remember at the end of the day no one really minds. 

Prep your lips

Your lips need to be in top condition if you’re planning on kissing somebody. You can’t be having chapped or dry lips.

If your lips are crying out for a scrub, grab your toothbrush and use it to softly exfoliate your lips. Work in a circular motion until smooth.

Avoid lipstick! Kissing your crush: good. Leaving a mess of red lippie on their face: bad. BUT if you’re feeling confident, wear that lipstick because anyone kissing you shouldn’t mind if they are worth their salt. 

It’s also a good idea to avoid sticky, super-shiny lip gloss, as these can make things a little messy. Ick. 

If you want to add something a little fancy, try a flavoured lip balm. Our pick? Nivea Fruity Shine Strawberry Lip Balm, $4.49 Mmmm.

Hint Hint

You like them. You’re ready to kiss them. But you feel awkward about letting them know. Don’t stress, sometimes people just need a gentle nudge to let them know you’re interested.

SCENARIO 1: If you’re at a party with friends and they’re there then this is your chance. There are plenty of opportunities to mingle and get close to them. Make sure you make solid eye contact and practise that flirty smile. Try your best to be alone for the big moment otherwise you’ll have all your friends chanting which can make things a little awkward.

OR, if you need a slight push from your friends, there’s nothing wrong with a little truth & dare or spin the bottle… just make sure you sit directly across from bae.

But if you’re not comfortable with anything that goes down during these game then it’s more than okay to say a big fat NO.

SCENARIO 2: If you’re at school, your potential bae is only going to get the message you want to kiss them if you drop MAJOR hints. Try secure some alone time with, like walking to and from class. Then grab their hand (with consent, of course) so they know you like them more than a friend.

SCENARIO 3: The movies are always a great ice-breaker for kissing. It’s dark, quiet, you’re sitting together and you’re probs already making physical shoulder or hand contact. You can try the standard horror movie so you have the best excuse to cuddle up to them. It helps to make some eye contact during the film, so they know they’re on your mind.

REMEMBER: There’s also NOTHING wrong with making the first move yourself. You can’t always rely on them to go in for the kill because hey they may not even know you like them. We’re pretty sure going in for a big fat kiss is a sure-fire way for them to know you are so totally into them. GO for it.

You independent kween.

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