And although there are often many factors at play when couples drift apart, it turns out there’s one red flag in particular that could indicate you’re headed straight for Splitsville.
According to new research published in the journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science, the most common reason people part ways is attachment anxiety or the fear associated with being rejected or let down.
Other motives include emotional distance, a power imbalance, or a violation of an expectation such as cheating.
But the key takeaway?
“Many participants were simultaneously motivated to both stay in their relationships and leave,” the study author and University of Utah sociologist Samantha Joel explained.
This suggests that "ambivalence is a common experience for those who are thinking about ending their relationships.”
This article originally appeared on Women's Health.