Researchers from Appalachian State University say poking fun at a partner is one of the strongest indicators of a healthy relationship – as long as you know where to draw the line.
Professor Jeffrey Hall, a communications studies researcher at the University of Kansas, US, has reviewed the findings of 39 studies of over 15,000 participants to pinpoint the importance of humour in romantic relationships. According to the professor, the fact that people think you're funny or that you can make a joke out of anything is not strongly related to how satisfied you or your partner will be in a relationship. What is strongly related to relationship satisfaction, however, is the humour couples create together.
Translation: inside jokes are key to a healthy relationship.
"Say you and your partner share a quirky sense of humour, but romantic comedies or sit-coms do nothing for either of you," Hall explained, "It's not that any style or a sense of humour is any better or worse. What matters is that you both see quirky humour as hysterical. If you share a sense of what's funny, it affirms you and affirms your relationship through laughter."
The idea is to celebrate your differences not rub it in their face.
“When you roast each other’s quirks, you are effectively pointing out the little, sometimes ignored sides to your personalities,” House explains. “Those quirks tend to be the things that you love most about your partner.”