#1 You go on heaps of “dates”
We’re not just talking about a few hang seshes here and there – an Almost Boyfriend (aka AB) will want to hang out with you a lot. And it all feels so nice that suddenly it’s four months later and you’re still in an ‘almost relationship’, or AR, and nothing has been locked down.
#2 No-one matters but him
So, you act like a couple when you’re in public and engage in a little PDA – you hold hands, he hugs you or you flirt. Yep, total boyfriend behaviour, right? And no-one else would dare approach you when you’re with your ‘almost boyf’, which often means you close yourself off from meeting anyone new.
#3 You overthink ERRYTHING
You take an eternity to draft your texts to him, as you don’t feel fully secure. You screenshot your convos and send them to your BFF to ask for advice and make sure to keep everything super casual, but inside you’re actually dealing with ALL the feels.
#4 You’re scared to talk about it
Having an AR is a lesson in patience because you feel like you can’t really talk about the future with your AB. You don’t want to rush them and you also don’t want to come across as being too full-on, which is something we just don’t get. What’s so bad about being interested in someone?
#5 Where are the boundaries?
It’s honestly the worst thing when you’re spilling the tea on your new boo with your besties and they all start asking questions that you just can’t answer. Is he your boyfriend? Is he seeing anyone else? Does he want a serious relationship? You haven’t asked these questions yet because things have been going so well between you guys that you haven’t wanted to rock the boat. We’ve been there!
WHAT TO DO RN
#1 Have the awkies convo
It’s really hard so WE FEEL YOUR PAIN, BABES. But, it’s important to know where you’re at and where he’s at – what do you want? What does he want? If you’re invested in this, but he’s not as keen, it’s better to know now and save yourself the heartbreak.
#2 Know your limits and stick to them
Having boundaries is healthy and something needed in all relationships – romantic or not. So you need to decide how long you’ll let this AR go on for before you havethe conversation with the AB or decide to call time on it.
#3 Keep your options open
Now, we’re not saying to start three ARs at once, but we do think it’s a good idea to keep yourself open to other people. Your real Prince Charming could be knocking at the door, but you can’t hear him because you’re too preoccupied with this guy!