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Abbie Chatfield opens up about coping with ‘friends with benefits’

This advice is A+ - by Milly Haddrick
  • 05 Dec 2019

As is the new trend for Aussie reality TV stars, The Bachelor runner-up Abbie Chatfield undertook an Instagram Q&A and dolled out some pretty sage advice in the process. 

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When asked the question "how to cope with complicated friends with benefits?" Abbie gave some excellent advice that we would all like to concur with. 

"I think as I've gotten older and I've had a lot of 'friends with benefits', I've realised that if either of you have feelings it isn't going to work, so cut it off.

"It sucks," Abbie continued, "But you're wasting your own time if you're waiting around for them to develop feelings, they're not going to if they haven't yet."

Honestly, we could not have said it better ourselves. 

 

 

 

Abbie

A big thumbs up to this answer!

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Basically team, once you recognise you have feelings for your f*ck buddy we suggest you communicate openly and honestly with them. And if they don't feel the same way then Abbie is right, cut it off. 

They will most probably not develop feelings and you will be wasting your time. 

Abbie

Queen.

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Abbie also shared her go-to response when someone tries to use the word 'slut' as an insult and stresses that if someone you know uses 'slut' in a derogatory way, make them question why they are using that word.  

"Ok so I always ask them questions. So I ask them to define the word. If they say 'its a woman I say 'that's sexist'. 

"If they say it's someone who's promiscuous then I ask them 'what's wrong with that? And why is sex harmful if you're being safe?" 

"So just keep asking them questions." 

abbie

Big YES to this advice.

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Of course, Bachelor related content came up, which Abbie answered for us as well. 

When an Instagrammer asked whether Abbie and Chelsie McLeod still talk, Abbie revealed that they are still close despite everything that's happened. 

"Yeah Chelsie and I still talk! I'm actually in Melbourne this weekend so I'm hoping to see her, but yeah love Chelsie!" 

As for whether Abbie's spoken to Matt Agnew since the finale, the answer is a firm 'no'. 

"I have not spoken to Matt, that's it. That ended in May." 

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Milly is the Digital Content Editor for Entertainment. A devout tea and chocolate enthusiast, Milly is a lover of all things pop culture (with a little dash of politics).

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