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Grief is a natural reaction to the loss of someone or something that's important in our lives and something we all experience at some point. But that doesn't mean it's easy. In fact, it's one of the hardest things people go through and everyone experiences it in different ways. You mightn't know what to say or do with someone who is grieving, but you CAN help. Try these tips...

Be Understanding

Psychologists say that it's important to recognise that there's no right or wrong way for people to grieve. While there are five stages of the hurting feels that people go through, no two people will go through the same thing. Some people might:
- have symptoms similar to a major depressive episode
- experience shock, confusion or anger
- feel helpless, fatigued and numb, or
- have an intense yearning for their lost loved one

Just Be There

Recognising and understanding grief is one thing, but what do you do if a friend has lost someone they love? Being there for them means respecting the way they are grieving and not imposing your own feelings, beliefs, expectations or experiences on them. It's best to let your BFF know that you're there. Sending a simple text message can be all it needs sometimes, too. 

Give It Time

Grief is all about adjusting to the world without a certain loved on in it, which can be painful and take a LOT of time. Eventually things will be better and, though they'll probs never stop missing that person, people do learn to cope. If this isn't the case and things are taking longer than you'd expect or seem to be getting worse the longer it takes, it might be time to suggest some help from a pro. They'll be thankful you care. 


 

- James Banham