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There always SO many mixed messages when it comes to dating. Should you pay it cool or tell them you're keen? Do you text after the first date or wait two days? Do opposites even attract?! Luckily EliteSingles has looked into what traits people go for when they're searching for love to give us a heads up. So what tops the list of a VERY long list of must-haves? Believe it or not, it was kindness.

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Yep. In the best news of 2016 it turns out goodness hasn't been destroyed by dating apps and the most important thing to men and women in a relationship is kindness. YAY!

The study asked 400,000 singles to rank their most-wanted traits and 82% of women and 70% of men said kindness is very important in finding a long-term partner. How sweet is that? It managed to beat qualities like sexual attraction, wealth and physical appearance to score the #1 spot. 


Relationship psychologist Salama Marine explained that this is a no-brainer (even if you don't see it when you get ghosted): “It’s scientifically proven that kindness and generosity are the two most important elements to a lasting relationship. Kindness is not about pretending to be happy all the time but rather about being considerate towards your partner. It’s the act of carefully expressing your feelings to them — both good and bad.”

WE ARE SO HAPPY RIGHT NOW! But you're probably wondering what traits made the top three aren't you? Well for women moral values and emotional connection closely followed kindness. While men said emotional connection and sexual compatibility were the next two things they'd look for in a lady. 

Maybe dating isn't so scary after all! 


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