How to tell if he really likes you

It’s the question you ask us most – how do you know if a guy likes you? Rob Moran, a Genuine, Actual Guy, guides us through the subtle signs to look out for...

Throughout history, people have spent countless hours (years, even!) of their precious lives trying to understand the opposite sex. Da Vinci made paintings about it (see Mona Lisa), Shakespeare wrote poems about it (read sonnets 127-152, known as the Dark Lady Sonnets), and, most famously, Whitney Houston sang about it (to a very catchy beat that gets old people dancing!).

But how can you really find out if a guy likes you? Well, your best bet is to go with your gut, lay your feelings out on the table, and see how he responds. Sure, that might take some massive lady-balls, but it’s the only way to get a clear and direct answer (remember – the guy’s just as confused by you as you are by him!). In the meantime, though, keep a look out for some of these telltale signs…

1. HE INVITES YOU OUT SOMEWHERE... ALONE!

Firstly, it’s important to note that when I say “out”, I mean out to the movies or a game arcade, or some music gig. Please don’t go “out” to, say, the bush or Make-Out Point alone with some guy, coz that’s just the classic set-up to a creepy horror movie – and it’s not gonna end well. Moving on, it’s strange to me that some girls don’t understand that this is a pretty obvious sign that he likes you. My girlfriend and I always argue about when our actual first date happened, mainly because SHE’S WRONG. Back when we were “just friends”, I bravely asked her out to some rap gig. She agreed and we had a fun night out together. To this day, her recollection of that night is, “That wasn’t a date!”. If a guy asks you to hang out with him, and you go, and there’s no-one else there, that’s a date.

2. HE COMPLIMENTS YOUR APPEARANCE

Besides the obvious stuff in our underpants, boys and girls differ in two major ways – their feelings on Ryan Gosling and their approach to compliments. For example, when a girl tells another girl, “Hey, I really like your dress”, she actually means “I really like your dress”. But when a boy tells a girl the same thing, he actually means “I really like you in whatever the heck you call what you’re wearing right now”. Guys don’t know anything about fashion (well, except maybe Kanye); when we compliment your hair or outfit, we’re just trying to tell you how much we like you.



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3. HE SHARES HIS INTERESTS WITH YOU

There was a time when the mixtape was the go-to flirtation method for every shy, introverted nerd. Basically, what would happen is said nerd would sit in his bedroom for hours putting together a magical playlist of songs that would help divulge his innermost feelings to the recipient, those things that were bursting to be said from the deepest wells of his soul but which he couldn’t possibly tell her in person (you know, being a shy nerd and all). Now, I’m a little behind the times when it comes to technology (my phone resembles a baguette!), but I’m sure this kinda stuff still happens, just in slightly different ways. That dude you like might email you MP3s with a subject line saying, “I just heard this song and I think you’ll love it!”, or he’ll post some YouTube link to a movie trailer on your Facebook wall with a message saying, “This looks rad, we should go watch it!”. He’s not just giving you an entertainment update – these are all clear signs that he wants to pash your brains out.

4. HE TALKS TO YOU!

Surprisingly, the simple act of human conversation is a pretty good indicator that a guy likes you. Much like Justin Bieber’s face, boys are WEIRD. I mean, have you listened to us on the basketball court chatting to our closest friends? All we say is stuff like “Woah!” or “Ugh!” or “Facial!”; we find it hard enough to talk to each other, let alone you! Around girls, we’re more lost than Lara Bingle during a physics test. We struggle to find the right words to say, the right topics to discuss… so why would we go through all that pain and agony if we didn’t really want to? If a guy is making the effort to chat to you regularly (and this includes emailing or instant messaging you on a daily basis), rest assured he goes to bed at night dreaming of you (uh, you know, in a sweet, gentlemanly way).

5. HE GOOFS AROUND ALOT WHEN HE'S NEAR YOU (SOMETIMES TOO MUCH...)

Boys are terrible at flirting, at least until they get to George Clooney’s age and start wearing suits and saying stuff like, “This pinot is exquisite”. Here’s an embarrassing example: One time, I was hanging out with my unrequited crush. We were having fun, slyly ribbing each other like a couple of regular Tina Feys, when she made fun of my hair or something and I jokingly gave her a little shove. Well, I thought it was little. She ended up hitting the ground and called me abusive. Even though I apologised profusely, the rest of the “date” was quiet, awkward and completely ruined. I felt so bad that I even cried in the bathroom when I got home. Sometimes we can get overly nervous and unintentionally silly when we’re around a beautiful, fun girl we like. If we happen to do something carelessly stupid, please be lenient – it’s only because we like you.

Words - Rob Moran